There is a lot that can be said when you are in the midst of a disagreement and you are listening to the other person or group say things that don’t add up to the reality of what actually happened. In that moment, you can choose to defend yourself or be at peace with being misunderstood.
It is not as easy as it sounds because sometimes as moms, women, we want to vocalize what is right and correct things. Maybe that comes from the motherly instincts to always have things aligned and organized.
I am still learning how to be okay with people misunderstanding, painting their own picture, making their own narrative. What is important is that you know the truth, you know your reality, and you know who you are. Oftentimes, we may find ourselves getting worked up, emotionally reactive, upset, frustrated because we feel that we are not being heard. We feel that we are not seen or what we have to say doesn’t matter in the moment. All of that is a lie. Your voice matters! You are seen, you are loved, and you are worthy of being heard and valued.
You have to understand that no matter what people throw at you, blame, shift or try to rewrite your narrative, that you know the rock in which you stand on. That God is fighting for you, and that the best you can do is “let be and be still” allow God to orchestrate His plan!
I begin to reflect on Jesus, how he was misunderstood. Yet, he held His peace. In Mark, we are reminded of how the Pharisees watched and stood around waiting to accuse Jesus to see if he would heal the man with the shriveled hand on the Sabbath. Yet, he held His peace and he spoke to the man and said “Stretch out your hand” Mark 3:5 NIV Jesus was angered and distressed at the hardened hearts yet he remained focused on the mission, and did not allow their accusations to affect him.
I want you to know that there are people who make it their mission to accuse and misunderstand you. You can do everything right, orderly, tailored, spoken with such eloquence and someone will find fault with you.
There is an urge to defend ourselves, to interrupt and make our point, and where they may be in error. However, there are things we have to surrender to God. We can not change the hearts of a man or a woman, but we can surrender and allow God to fight for us, to defend us and make it right. He is our Great Defender. There is such a peace that you will have in the midst of any storm, any situation, any disagreement when you know that no matter what is being spoken that God is fighting this battle for you. You can hold your peace in being misunderstood; be still, guard your heart and move your focus on God instead of your problem.
I pray that this has encouraged you today. In what ways are you surrendering to God? Write it out, start here https://amzn.to/42Vpaqn
I pray that you are refreshed and strengthened and that you know you are valued, and loved by God. Be Blessed.