It is around that time where work events and Holiday gatherings are beginning. I typically get a little nervous around this time. You are often around faces that you haven’t really interacted with in person for a while or even new faces and settings.
Even at work you may see that there are segments where you go around on the call or in the meeting and you state what you are grateful for and your Holiday plans. This happened recently for me.
I get a little emotional talking about my son, he is such a gift from God and I know how far God has brought us from and the work He is still doing with and through us. Sooo.. I begin to fight back tears while keeping a huge smile on my face. Even recognizing those destiny helpers that God has strategically placed on my path as I navigate this journey. When you really reflect on that you see how truly blessed you are.
I also got invited to a company event with new faces and you know that the homebody response wants to make an excuse, “No, thank you, but I won’t be able to attend.” Well, I viewed it differently this time. This is an opportunity for my capacity to be stretched, to get out of what is familiar and that old dusty comfort zone. So I said yes.
It’s easy for a person to feel anxiety or nervousness when meeting new people, but I’m reminded of the verse in 2 Timothy 1:7, “For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind.” God did not give us shyness or timidity. He gave us boldness, a sound mind.
You have to know who you are and not carry the labels that your trauma and the world has given you. You have to also be assertive. Let your yes be yes and your no be no! Even when you think of the word assertive, it means to communicate your thoughts, feelings and needs in a confident, direct and respectful way.
When you know who you are in Christ Jesus, it becomes easier to navigate with the wisdom of God and assert yourself in the confidence of Him. Knowing that no matter what room you step in, He is with you. When you are assertive it helps to build your confidence in awkward and even normal conversations and situations. It helps to reduce conflict because you are clear with your statements and there is no lack of clarity. Your needs begin to be met because you are communicating your concerns and wants, and you will also see improvement in your relationships because a safe place has been cultivated for transparency.
Here are a few practical tips to use along the way:
- Communicate clearly – ensure that your statements are presented with clarity
- Engage in conversation, ex. Where are you from, how do you spend your free time, common interests etc.
- Know when the conversation is coming to an end, do not linger on a conversation too long.
- Have a positive attitude and welcoming energy – provide a safe welcoming space to converse with people.
I pray that this has blessed you today! In what ways are you showing up with assertiveness in your life and how has it been useful to you?